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How to let go the past resentments


In everyone’s life there is some situation or incidents when you treat things that you have been unfairly , you didn’t get the recognition or respect which you truly deserve . 

You have been misunderstood. You were right put people and circumstances proved you wrong. You wanted the things to have taken place differently but they didn’t. 

Such things create a very long lasting impression on your brain. This hinders your growth. You are not able to move forward in your life due to such past resentments. 

So below are mentioned the tips and ways to let go the past resentments.

Put yourself in others shoes:-

It is well said that right and wrong changes when you put yourself on others shoes. If you think only from your position you will always see yourself correct and the other wrong. 

You will hate that person who insulted you or treated you unfairly. But when you will put yourself on others shoe. i.e. you will think from their point of view. 

You will get a 360 degree view of entire situation. Thinks may change this time. Your thought process may change. You may even find yourself at fault at some point. 

The hate which makes your heart heavy for such a long time, may even melt. 

And you will permanently be able to get rid of the person from your mind, and be able to move forward in life.

Learn to forgive:-

 Almost all of your hatredness towards the person who have hurt you will be removed if you learn to forgive without getting an apology. 

In this world, the hardest truth to admit is nobody cares about your feelings. 

If you think that the person who have hurt you will apologize once he realize his mistake then this is the cause of your all resentments. 

First of all that person is never going to admit his mistake, and by least possibility if he does, he is never going to apologize. 

And you will be the only one getting distressed by your physiological drama. So, this case just think that the other person feels guilty and just to preserve his ego, 

he is not apologizing , accept that without even getting it. And feel free to forgive that person. Because this is for your own good only. 

By forgiving you will get yourself free from that person which keeps you binding with the past and resists you from stepping into the future.

Breakout to a close person:-

If you are not able to forget the things took place in the past, and you are remembering that again and again and being sad about that, tell incident to the people you trust the most. 

They may  look the situation through their perspective, and may show the exact matter, and whose fault it was, which you are not able to understand  and because it may possible that the insult which you felt was so huge that you are not able to find whose fault it actually was. 

It may be your fault or the other person or non of you both are guilty or both of you may be guilty or it is simply a misunderstanding and you took a misunderstanding on your heart. 

Basically who will have to deeply analyze the whole matter before getting to a conclusion.


Apologize if you are at fault:-

 Many a times deep down you know that you are at fault.You feel guilty because knowingly or unknowingly you did something wrong. 

You are feeling intense pain, there is hidden regret in you , so simply put your ego aside, leave the thoughts like how the other person will react, he is below my level so how can I apologise and take a step forward and show apology and get relived from the heavy load. 

No need to thing that whether the person will forgive you or not ,It entirely depends on them ,non of your business.You just have to make a apology to get yourself out from the physiological drama.

Except the inevitable:-

Except the incident as it was. Do not expect that things should have been different. First and foremost except the inevitable. 

You don’t have this much power to go in past and fix the things up and you will have to understand that. May be the incident was meant to be as it was. 

Don’t run from reality and live in imagination .If you have to let go resentment about the way that things happened.

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